Summoning and listening to life


It happens even today in West Africa, in the nation of Burkina Faso. Here there is a tribe called the Dagara and they believe every mother dreams her child into being.

For the Dagara, the life of a child doesn’t begin the day they are born. Nor does it begin just after conception. Instead a child is “born” the day it first becomes a thought in the mind of its mother. Once a woman feels it’s time for her to have a child, she walks off by herself and finds a tree. Under its shade, she sits and waits, until she hears the song of her child. Soon as she’s heard it, she returns to her village and finds the man who will be the father of the child. She teaches him the song. And while they make love, together, they sing their child’s song, inviting it into this world.

After the woman becomes pregnant, the mother teaches her child’s song to all the other women of the village. On the day her child pushes out of her womb, all the women gather together and sing the child’s song, welcoming it into this world. As it grows up, whenever the child gets hurt, any villager can comfort the child by singing their song to them since each member of the tribe knows everyone’s song. Later, when the child is older and has done something worthy of praise, the tribe will sing the child’s song to him or her. And when they’re ready to undergo the rites of puberty, the tribe will gather and sing the child’s song. When a child becomes an adult, and they get married, the bride and groom’s songs are sung together as a way of linking their lives. Finally, at the end of their life, as the child prepares to die, the tribe gathers and sings the child’s song to him or her, for the last time.

It is also customary for pregnant women to go through a hearing ritual. The purpose of this hearing ritual is to listen to the incoming baby; to find out who it is; why it’s coming at this time; what it’s purpose is; what it likes or dislikes; and what the living can do to prepare space for this person. The child’s name is then given based on that information. Four weeks after the birth the naming for a baby girl takes place, and three weeks after the birth, a baby boy is named. In the Dagara tradition, you own your name up until the age of five. After the age of five, your name owns you. Your name is an energy; your name has a life force. It creates an umbrella under which you live. That is why it is important to hear the child before they giving him or her the name, because the name must match the purpose.

Excerpt from: Welcoming Spirit Home: Ancient African Teachings to Celebrate Children and Community New World Library ~ by Sobonfu Some

It is a very interesting tradition that goes in line with some of the writings of the Romanian author Scarlat Demetrescu, who in his 1944 book “On the secrets of Life and Universe” describes that when a spirit decides to come to physical life, as it descends to the inferior planes into the material, an astral music accompanies it to give it hope and courage. Maybe the Dagar young women are listening to this astral music.


Is your life like a tango?

Tango is about independence and bonding, about one step after the other, about living the moment, about passion and creativity, about love and… no, not hate,  just love.

Tango is free of rules. You can pick you next move yourself and be creative with the next one. Tango is about now, this moment. Is about here. It’s about partners connecting and living in the present. It’s about knowing when to get close and when to let go of each other.

It’s about trust, about looking in the eyes and understanding what’s going to be next. Speechless communication. How much no words can tell. It’s about feelings. It’s about expressing yourself and letting your partner express himself too, but each one adapting harmoniously with the other.

In tango the man must subtle lead his partner merely by intention. He is the one that sees the dance floor and thus has the responsibility on him. He has to put the light on the woman. To make her follow him freely. Than the woman will use her intuition and will feel his next move more accurately. As she is taken into the dance and cannot see, she must make use of the other senses. For a woman tango calls for patience, acceptance, feeling and synchronicity.

Isn’t this tango the way relationships should be? Or life?

Life like a tango


I am not going to ask if you know the song, but if you really know the lyrics.

This is from Freddie! Lover of life, Singer of Songs. Forever!

“While the sun hangs in the sky and the desert has sand
While the waves crash in the sea and meet the land
While there’s a wind and the stars and the rainbow
Till the mountains crumble into the plain

Oh yes we’ll keep on tryin’
Oh tread that fine line
Oh we’ll keep on tryin’ yeah
Just passing our time

While we live according to race, colour or creed
While we rule by blind madness and pure greed
Our lives dictated by tradition, superstition, false religion
Through the eons, and on and on

Oh yes we’ll keep on tryin’
Oh we’ll tread that fine line
Oh oh we’ll keep on tryin’
Till the end of time
Till the end of time

Through the sorrow all through our splendour
Don’t take offence at my innuendo

You can be anything you want to be
Just turn yourself into anything you think that you could ever be
Be free with your tempo, be free be free
Surrender your ego – be free, be free to yourself

Oooh, oooh –
If there’s a God or any kind of justice under the sky
If there’s a point, if there’s a reason to live or die
If there’s an answer to the questions we feel bound to ask
Show yourself – destroy our fears – release your mask

Oh yes we’ll keep on trying
Hey tread that fine line
Yeah we’ll keep on smiling yeah
And whatever will be – will be

We’ll just keep on trying
We’ll just keep on trying
Till the end of time Till the end of time
Till the end of time”

Freddie lives!

love this song -Marillion – This train is my life

This train is my life/Speeding through the night

We have been to these places / For barely a moment

Wide awake /Sometimes sleeping /Sometimes watching /Sometimes dreaming

Through stroby stations /Too fast to know their names/Too fast to know if we came or will come again

Sleeping towns joined together / By the steel of the rails

Parallel lines / Parallel lives

You and I/ We’re movie-rich /We’re reflected in the window / The dark night’s black mirror glass

Distant lights from the wrong side of the tracks

Christmas lights/Go by in the houses/Anonymous windows/Anonymous rooms of Anonymous souls

So take my hand/Squeeze it tight /Make some light/In the darkness

I’m glad you came on this trip/Don’t lose your grip/Don’t lose your grip

This train is my life/This train is my life

Travel with me /And we’ll see..

three advices and a song

Ask for what you want but do not make claims.” – this advice from Ken Keyes should be used according to ones needs but I think that is important to reflect on it whenever possible.

When one makes a claim like “you should do what I want”, “you should do what is important to me,”  you actually consent to cede the control on your life and on your state of well-being. You will become dependent on the reactions of others and may suffer if they are not doing what you want. And there’s another trap: if you don’t say what you want, because you fear that your request might not be appreciated, your chances to get it are extremely small.

A second advice from Keyes: Accept, for the moment, everything that happens to you.

You can forgive an “unforgiving” thing and you can love what it is not to be loved.  Do not react by feeling hurt. Our suffering is powered only by our mind that feels hurt or unhappy.

And there’s a third one, like a charm: Give more love, even if you don’t get back what you want or expect.

To love is to tear down the walls which surround your heart, and let the feelings to reach your beloved. Love has nothing to do with what happens in your life, but in your heart. To love is not to like what your loved one is doing and is not to say “I love you, if you do this for me”. Real love needs no reasons and no conditions.

If you really want to learn love you must be able to keep your heart open, no matter what happens.

Your happiness potential can only be reached by feeling and manifesting love – for yourself and for the others.

There’s only one person who can really make you happy – the one that reflects into your mirror.

Remember – the piano keys are black and white, but they sound like a million colors in your mind

belong to love

You know when you give your love away
It opens your heart, everything is new
And you know time will always find a way
To let your heart believe it’s true

You know love is everything you say
A whisper, a word, promises you give
You feel it in the heartbeat of the day
You know this is the way love is

Love is, love is, love…

You know love may sometimes make you cry
So let the tears go, they will flow away
For you know love will always let you fly
How far a heart can fly away

Love is, love is, love…

You know when love’s shining in your eyes
It may be the stars falling from above.
And you know love is with you when you rise,
For night and day belong to love