Is your life like a tango?


Tango is about independence and bonding, about one step after the other, about living the moment, about passion and creativity, about love and… no, not hate,  just love.

Tango is free of rules. You can pick you next move yourself and be creative with the next one. Tango is about now, this moment. Is about here. It’s about partners connecting and living in the present. It’s about knowing when to get close and when to let go of each other.

It’s about trust, about looking in the eyes and understanding what’s going to be next. Speechless communication. How much no words can tell. It’s about feelings. It’s about expressing yourself and letting your partner express himself too, but each one adapting harmoniously with the other.

In tango the man must subtle lead his partner merely by intention. He is the one that sees the dance floor and thus has the responsibility on him. He has to put the light on the woman. To make her follow him freely. Than the woman will use her intuition and will feel his next move more accurately. As she is taken into the dance and cannot see, she must make use of the other senses. For a woman tango calls for patience, acceptance, feeling and synchronicity.

Isn’t this tango the way relationships should be? Or life?

Life like a tango

A Dragonfly Story


Last year, on a beautiful Wednesday of mid September, I was just walking out of my bank and suddenly a dragonfly landed on my left shoulder. I stoped and looked at it for a second. It was a regular dragonfly, with those fragile wings, long body and huge green eyes. It seemed ok, with intact wings and no injuries. I first thought that if I was to move it will fly away, so I reached my right hand and put my fingers close to it. To my surprise the dragonfly turned to my fingers and slowly “stepped” on.

I started to walk slowly towards my car, as a man who saw the whole scene smiled at me. With the dragonfly on my fingers I got inside the car and opened the window, waiting for a minute to see if it wants to fly away. It stayed. I closed the window and start the engine. I put the dragonfly on my lap and started driving back to the office, which is not far away. I was so excited about my new friend. I took it again on my fingers when I got back to my office and stepped in presenting the dragonfly to everybody.

After a few minutes we went out in the backyard and I held my hand up. The dragonfly flew away. I was happy for it. It was a beautiful experience and some of the best ten minutes of my life.

I don’t know why, in many western cultures these little fragile and agile insects are associated with evil. If you look at older cultures like Hopi, Zuni or even Japanese you willl find dragonflies associated with all kinds of virtues and positive symbols.

Dragonflies always fascinated me!

12 things that happy people do differently


 

“I’d always believed that a life of quality, enjoyment, and wisdom were my human birthright and would be automatically bestowed upon me as time passed.  I never suspected that I would have to learn how to live – that there were specific disciplines and ways of seeing the world I had to master before I could awaken to a simple, happy, uncomplicated life.”
-Dan Millman

Studies conducted by positivity psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky point to 12 things happy people do differently to increase their levels of happiness.  These are things that we can start doing today to feel the effects of more happiness in our lives.

I want to honor and discuss each of these 12 points, because no matter what part of life’s path we’re currently traveling on, these ‘happiness habits’ will always be applicable.

  1. Express gratitude. – When you appreciate what you have, what you have appreciates in value.  Kinda cool right?  So basically, being grateful for the goodness that is already evident in your life will bring you a deeper sense of happiness.  And that’s without having to go out and buy anything.  It makes sense.  We’re gonna have a hard time ever being happy if we aren’t thankful for what we already have.
  2. Cultivate optimism. – Winners have the ability to manufacture their own optimism.  No matter what the situation, the successful diva is the chick who will always find a way to put an optimistic spin on it.  She knows failure only as an opportunity to grow and learn a new lesson from life.  People who think optimistically see the world as a place packed with endless opportunities, especially in trying times.
  3. Avoid over-thinking and social comparison. – Comparing yourself to someone else can be poisonous.  If we’re somehow ‘better’ than the person that we’re comparing ourselves to, it gives us an unhealthy sense of superiority.  Our ego inflates – KABOOM – our inner Kanye West comes out!  If we’re ‘worse’ than the person that we’re comparing ourselves to, we usually discredit the hard work that we’ve done and dismiss all the progress that we’ve made.  What I’ve found is that the majority of the time this type of social comparison doesn’t stem from a healthy place.  If you feel called to compare yourself to something, compare yourself to an older version of yourself.
  4. Practice acts of kindness. – Performing an act of kindness releases serotonin in your brain.  (Serotonin is a substance that has TREMENDOUS health benefits, including making us feel more blissful.)  Selflessly helping someone is a super powerful way to feel good inside.  What’s even cooler about this kindness kick is that not only will you feel better, but so will people watching the act of kindness.  How extraordinary is that?  Bystanders will be blessed with a release of serotonin just by watching what’s going on.  A side note is that the job of most anti-depressants is to release more serotonin.  Move over Pfizer, kindness is kicking ass and taking names.
  5. Nurture social relationships. – The happiest people on the planet are the ones who have deep, meaningful relationships.  Did you know studies show that people’s mortality rates are DOUBLED when they’re lonely?  WHOA!  There’s a warm fuzzy feeling that comes from having an active circle of good friends who you can share your experiences with.  We feel connected and a part of something more meaningful than our lonesome existence.
  6. Develop strategies for coping. – How you respond to the ‘craptastic’ moments is what shapes your character.  Sometimes crap happens – it’s inevitable.  Forrest Gump knows the deal.  It can be hard to come up with creative solutions in the moment when manure is making its way up toward the fan.  It helps to have healthy strategies for coping pre-rehearsed, on-call, and in your arsenal at your disposal.
  7. Learn to forgive. – Harboring feelings of hatred is horrible for your well-being.  You see, your mind doesn’t know the difference between past and present emotion.  When you ‘hate’ someone, and you’re continuously thinking about it, those negative emotions are eating away at your immune system.  You put yourself in a state of suckerism (technical term) and it stays with you throughout your day.
  8. Increase flow experiences. – Flow is a state in which it feels like time stands still.  It’s when you’re so focused on what you’re doing that you become one with the task.  Action and awareness are merged.  You’re not hungry, sleepy, or emotional.  You’re just completely engaged in the activity that you’re doing.  Nothing is distracting you or competing for your focus.
  9. Savor life’s joys. – Deep happiness cannot exist without slowing down to enjoy the joy.  It’s easy in a world of wild stimuli and omnipresent movement to forget to embrace life’s enjoyable experiences.  When we neglect to appreciate, we rob the moment of its magic.  It’s the simple things in life that can be the most rewarding if we remember to fully experience them.
  10. Commit to your goals. – Being wholeheartedly dedicated to doing something comes fully-equipped with an ineffable force.  Magical things start happening when we commit ourselves to doing whatever it takes to get somewhere.  When you’re fully committed to doing something, you have no choice but to do that thing.  Counter-intuitively, having no option – where you can’t change your mind – subconsciously makes humans happier because they know part of their purpose.
  11. Practice spirituality. – When we practice spirituality or religion, we recognize that life is bigger than us.  We surrender the silly idea that we are the mightiest thing ever.  It enables us to connect to the source of all creation and embrace a connectedness with everything that exists.  Some of the most accomplished people I know feel that they’re here doing work they’re “called to do.”
  12. Take care of your body. – Taking care of your body is crucial to being the happiest person you can be.  If you don’t have your physical energy in good shape, then your mental energy (your focus), your emotional energy (your feelings), and your spiritual energy (your purpose) will all be negatively affected.  Did you know that studies conducted on people who were clinically depressed showed that consistent exercise raises happiness levels just as much as Zoloft?  Not only that, but here’s the double whammy… Six months later, the people who participated in exercise were less likely to relapse because they had a higher sense of self-accomplishment and self-worth.

        by Jacob Sokol

You can heal your life – movie


What if, starting today, you would decide to confidently step on another path, a path much closer of your true self?

“You can heal your life” is a movie about the power of our thoughts and the path of own healing, either physical, emotional or spiritual. Louise L. Hay, author of the homonymous book gathers together a number of luminaries in the fields of self-help and health and spirituality and new thought—including Doreen Virtue, Gregg Braden, Wayne W. Dyer, Gay Hendricks, Esther and Jerry Hicks, Leon Nacson, Dr. Christiane Northrup, Dr. Candace B. Pert, Cheryl Richardson, Dr. Mona Lisa Schulz, and many others who share their personal stories about Louise’s impact on their lives in You Can Heal Your Life, The Movie.

Enjoy!

http://vimeo.com/27678730

Indignez vous! by Stephane Hessel – the text


Update: I was asked to remove the text of the book from my page. I did it, although I think that Monsieur Hessel wanted everybody to have access to his text, and didn’t care much about copyright or the gains from it.

*you can download a docx version of the english text or listen to this reading here 🙂 Namaste

You probably heard already, especially if you are in Western Europe, about the latest editorial phenomenon which some call The New Little Red Book. It’s Stephane Hessel’s small pamphlet which is a rallying cry for French masses to combat social, political, and economic injustices, called “Indignez vous!”. An editorial phenomenon because it already sold in three months more than 600,000 copies and another 200,000 are already printed, as the english editions and the North-American markets are just being released.

by Paul Klee

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4 kinds of hearts


I found this beautiful text (here) with resemblance to the sower and the four kinds of soils biblical parable, but with a new look upon it.

There are four kinds of heart in this world:

1. the live heart in a live man
2. the live heart in a dead man
3. the dead heart in a live man and
4. the dead heart in a dead man
The live heart in the live person is beating to other hearts regardless of their status, it embraces and enjoys every minute together and pulls them into a giant effort to the other world to which his heart truly beats.
The live heart of the dead man and the dead heart of the live man usually live in a state of mutual contempt, do not stand each other. Dead man with a live heart is the man who apparently is dead to the world, nothing moves him, but his heart beats to something, to something from another world, to the other world, to another reality. Because of this, a kind of caste pride catches him sometimes and then from the broken fence between himself and the world snickers envy, repugnance, anathema and sometimes excommunication. There is a hidden envy there, because the world has its charms too; all this until he comes into senses again, puts on his mortuary mask and his heart starts beating again for the other something.
The live man with the dead heart is the one whose heart is not touched by anything, although he moves in every direction,  crosses the oceans, travels in reality and virtually, back and forth in time indefinitely, from the Big Bang until the end of the world, miming emotion in society – in his type of society, with his type of emotion.  Because he’s very good at this, despite his dead heart, his face has a multitude of nuances. He doesn’t understand the dead man with the live heart, doesn’t understands his apparent apathy and no real affiliation, his mortuary mask inhibits him, it disconcerts him because he knows that behind it something beats for something else, which remembers him that inside he is actually on “mute”, although in fact is so noisy on the outside, so civilized and witty-funny-casual.
The dead heart in the dead man is the lucidity of the anesthetic patient who can’t talk and thus cannot communicate to the outside what he knows inside that is happening – his life like a dead open heart surgery. In his despair the dead man is trying to cling on things for the fear of disappearance, because his greatest fear is he will disappear into nothingness, as on a narrow spiral service stair that he believes will lead to ground, but actually on the ground floor the door is locked and the stairs go down to infinity into a dark infinity. He attracts things inside as one who is trying to rise from the ground and clings to one corner of tablecloth. Fails and all things are drawn towards him, on him, like a black hole. The most terrifying thing is that the dead heart in a dead man is very spacious –  all things disappear in it forever. This dead heart in the dead man clings perfectly on the dead heart in the live man, on the live heart in the dead man, on the live heart in the live man; it clings on anything, like a perfect automated cardiograph. However this kind of heart no longer has access to what is inside. Everything falls down forever.
All this kinds of hearts are floating in an ocean of love in this world. This ocean of love can
embrace billions of billions of billions of hearts simultaneously and still find room for another billion and trillion of  hearts. And it takes care of them with infinite grace.
Also in this ocean there is room for quadrillion of quadrillion of TB of pure emotion. And there is still room for at least same amount of pure information.
The problem is that, except the live heart in the live man, all other kinds of hearts are looking at life as an intercontinental cruise ship, with many decks – for each kind and class of hearts.
A cruise ship to satisfy 6 billion hearts, which, deep inside, alive or dead, don’t want to get wet and fear the ocean’s tides.
The idea is that all ships must sink in this ocean, that’s the sense of the journey. All ships and submarines must sink into the ocean of love, all means of transportation known and unknown must sink into the ocean of love – with all their passengers.
For when all the hearts will be sinking in this ocean – with will, not by chance – the ocean will make them as spacious as the ocean itself, simultaneously:
1. the live hearts in a live person
2. the live heart in a dead person
3. the dead heart in a live person
4. the dead heart in a dead person