Is your life like a tango?

Tango is about independence and bonding, about one step after the other, about living the moment, about passion and creativity, about love and… no, not hate,  just love.

Tango is free of rules. You can pick you next move yourself and be creative with the next one. Tango is about now, this moment. Is about here. It’s about partners connecting and living in the present. It’s about knowing when to get close and when to let go of each other.

It’s about trust, about looking in the eyes and understanding what’s going to be next. Speechless communication. How much no words can tell. It’s about feelings. It’s about expressing yourself and letting your partner express himself too, but each one adapting harmoniously with the other.

In tango the man must subtle lead his partner merely by intention. He is the one that sees the dance floor and thus has the responsibility on him. He has to put the light on the woman. To make her follow him freely. Than the woman will use her intuition and will feel his next move more accurately. As she is taken into the dance and cannot see, she must make use of the other senses. For a woman tango calls for patience, acceptance, feeling and synchronicity.

Isn’t this tango the way relationships should be? Or life?

Life like a tango


You can heal your life – movie

What if, starting today, you would decide to confidently step on another path, a path much closer of your true self?

“You can heal your life” is a movie about the power of our thoughts and the path of own healing, either physical, emotional or spiritual. Louise L. Hay, author of the homonymous book gathers together a number of luminaries in the fields of self-help and health and spirituality and new thought—including Doreen Virtue, Gregg Braden, Wayne W. Dyer, Gay Hendricks, Esther and Jerry Hicks, Leon Nacson, Dr. Christiane Northrup, Dr. Candace B. Pert, Cheryl Richardson, Dr. Mona Lisa Schulz, and many others who share their personal stories about Louise’s impact on their lives in You Can Heal Your Life, The Movie.


how far can you see?

“Only as high as I reach can I grow, only as far as I seek can I go, only as deep as I look can I see, only as much as I dream can I be.”  – Kevin Ravn

Photo by Esparta

Knowledge is Power – the more awareness you have, the more capable you are of surviving and succeeding. Now we can turn things around and say: Lack of Knowledge is lack of Power. When we think of something to be true we are basing our belief on the information and the perception over it. In other words we are limiting our powers because our individual “truth” is limited. Ingo Swann has a wonderful essay on awareness, perception and individual realities and here is a small excerpt:

Individual “realities” are easy enough to perceive on their surfaces, so to speak, generally because most people will tell you what they are. But otherwise those “realities” are made up of a number of complex factors. Thus, any discussion of individual “realities” requires the drawing together of various elements that can, in some general way, be thought of as relevant to the formation of individual realities.

Individual realities are usually seen as meaningful and important by those who hold them. These “realities”  are obviously erected out of mixtures of direct experience of what one encounters in life and various kinds of information packages one has taken on board, mentally adapted to, or socially conditioned with, etc. What is not so obvious about individual realities is that their psychodynamic functioning tends to set margins that contribute to two factors.

The margins, in some psychodynamic way, limit the parameters of awareness and perception to those that fit within the margins; and, conversely, the same margins therefore must somehow psychodynamically exclude, or desensitize, possible other awarenesses and perceptions that do not fit.

Thus, it can be thought, on the one hand, that awareness and perception of something makes it possible to acquire, recognize, and realize information about it. On the other hand, absence of awareness of the something makes perception of it impossible, and, therefore, any information pertinent to the un-perceived, so to speak, cannot be recognized as such.

In any event, it would seem that awareness, perception, and information somehow go hand in hand, so much so that if one of this trio is deleted, the other two delete also. This trio is therefore mutually interactive, and so they altogether constitute some kind of SYSTEM.

Most have some idea of what a system is. But what is not generally realized is that an individual biomind is entirely composed of various kinds of interacting systems that are incorporated into the systemic whole of its life form. It is thus possible to assume, for hypothetical consideration, that awareness, perception, AND information in-take and out-put, are composed of specializing systems within the greater systemic whole of the biomind.

Reality is what one thinks it is WITHIN the contexts of whatever information one is utilizing to mind-dynamically construct what are but tailored versions of “reality” – which are built out of versions of information – and which information can consist only of available information.

As it would be, then, non-available information cannot be incorporated into the versions of realities largely because if it IS unavailable there can be no awareness of it.

[ …] outside of everyone’s individual realities there exist great numbers of additive information packages that can be pointed up. And, if seen suitable at the individual level, they might act to expand various margins of awareness and perceptions. 

“Real knowledge is to know the extent of one’s ignorance.”  – Confucius “Real knowledge is to know the extent of one’s ignorance.”  – Confucius

At least part of the meaning here is that if real knowledge activates and contributes to empowerment, the extent of one’s ignorance could contribute to one’s depowerment.

As another example, the somewhat older contemporary of Confucius, the venerable Lao Tsu labored to point up (via the eighty-one chapters of his TAO TE CHING*) that clear-cut thinking based in the “laws” of real phenomena leads to natural activation of empowerment.

If this would be the case, then non-clear-cut thinking based or trapped in ambiguities would not yield very much regarding empowerment.

To be continued….

*you can download a version of the TAO TE CHING from my Boxnet shared files from the homepage of this blog. 😉

Divide et impera – din nou

Revin cu unul dintre primele posturi de pe acest blog, scris in decembrie 2009 – in plina campanie electorala atunci.

“Divide et impera, the reprobated axiom of tyranny, is under certain qualifications, the only policy, by which a republic can be administered on just principles.”

James Madison – the 4th American President

Puterea nu se castiga usor. Iar atunci cand se castiga cu truda mare, prin metode mai violente sau prin infuzii materiale, se mentine greu. Astfel ca, inca de acum 2300 de ani, a aparut o tehnica politico/economic/militara care s-a dovedit utila in castigarea si mai ales mentinerea puterii.

Utilizarea acestei tehnici este menita să împuternicească suveranul sa controleze subiectii, populaţia, sau grupuri de interese diferite, care în mod colectiv ar putea fi în măsură să se opună regimului său.

Tacticile de baza ale strategiei sunt:

– crearea sau neîmpotrivirea la formarea de grupuri înguste din populaţia vizată.

– ajutarea şi promovarea celor care sunt dispuşi să colaboreze cu cel ce îşi impune voinţa, adesea acordându-le pământ, bogăţii, titluri, funcţii ce aparţin unei persoane din acelaşi grup sau din grup ‘rival’.

– promovarea neîncrederii si neînţelegerii între membrii unui grup sau între grupuri.

– impunerea propriei voinţe asupra grupurilor sau membrilor unui grup în vederea obţinerii rezultatelor dorite. Impunerea se poate realiza în mod subtil sau în mod transparent. Un exemplu ar fi încurajarea cheltuielilor frivole care diminuează cheltuielile militare sau pe cele legate de manevre politice.

Pentru ca strategia sa poata fi aplicata cu succes sunt necesare cateva conditii sociale: supusii strategiei trebuie sa isi asume pe deplin tacticile. Cel mai bine functioneaza in cazul in care exista un spirit competitiv inalt, mai ales intre familiile nobiliare, clasele sociale, clanuri si este favorizata de comunicare proasta sau lipsa de comunicare intre membri populatiei.

Kant, in esseul sau “Spre pacea eternă” expune maximele despotismului cinic şi realismului prost inteles prin care liderii marilor puteri si colosi si-au adapostit setea de putere si nevoia de a o explica:

Fac et excusa (Fa acum si Scuza-te mai tarziu)

Si Fecisti, nega (Daca ai facut-o, neaga!).

Divide et Impera (Dezbina si Stapaneste)

Cum si-a luat permisul auto Dan Puric

“Dumnezeu,  iubindu-ma, ma tot pune la felurite incercari ca sa nu ma plictisesc.
Asa a fost si cu  soferia. Ne-am luat si noi masina.
Atunci mi-a zis sotia ca  ar fi bine sa-mi iau permis si eu, ca, cine stie, s-ar putea  sa fie nevoie vreodata sa sofez.
Pentru mine, lucrul asta a venit prea tarziu si m-am dus la prima lectie de soferie cu emotii de liceean, la un PECO, unde trebuia sa ma intalnesc cu instructorul.
Tremuram rau pe marginea  trotuarului, ca la  bacalaureat, si il asteptam.
Cel mai bun  lucru era ca omul  nu ma cunostea.
A venit cu o Dacia de pe vremea lui  Ceausescu, careia, cand i-a pus o frana, chiar in fata mea, i-au sarit suruburile pe jos. Le-a adunat tacticos si le-a pus la locul lor, ignorandu-ma.. Era mecanicul absolut, la intalnirea cu imbecilul absolut.

Locul mortului

Nea Ilie era plin de vaselina si avea un fes slinos pe cap. M-a citit din prima, si-a dat seama cu cine are de-a face.
Daca m-ar fi cunoscut, mi-ar fi  spus: «Vai, maestre, ce onorat sunt sa va fiu eu  instructor!» Cand mi-a zis, fara sa se uite la mine: «Ba, asta e cheia!», am inghetat.
«Fii atent, a continuat el, ambreiajul este tata, frana este mama, iar acceleratia este copilul tampit care alearga pana ce da cu capul in prima masina.» Absolut genial!
Apoi  imi spune scurt: «Treci in locul meu!» Eu, speriat:
«Lasa-ma, nene, ca n-am mai pus in viata mea mana pe asa ceva».
«Ba, tu nu te-ai saturat sa stai pe locul mortului si sa te conduca toti tampitii?»

Si atunci m-am gandit sa  strig si eu la poporul roman:

«Popor roman, nu te-ai saturat sa stai pe locul mortului
si sa fii condus de toti tampitii?»

Era o adevarata resuscitare, domnule!
Si imi tot repeta:

«Hai, hai, invata sa conduci!»

Ceea ce a urmat a fost incredibil. M-a scos direct in trafic.
Si eu trebuia sa am mana pe volan, pe chei, pe schimbatorul de
viteze, trebuia sa ma uit in cele doua oglinzi, dar si in ochii lui.
«Unde te duci, maaa? Nu vezi unde ma bagi?
O calci pe baba aia! Nu te uiti in spate?
Vezi, ba, ca intra ala in tine!»

Si m-a tinut asa, de inghetam si transpiram tot, doua zile
la rand! Nu mai eram sanatos! Nici un rol, in viata mea,
nu m-a solicitat atat de mult si nu m-a adus
intr-o asemenea stare. In a treia zi s-a linistit de tot.
Statea batranul cu o mana pe volan si cu fesul pe ochi..
Dormea, domnule! «Inseamna ca am inceput sa conduc bine»,
mi-am zis.

Crucea Sfantului Andrei

Nu l-ati vazut pe Puric disperatul intre Maestrul sau dormind
si traficul din Bucuresti. Si, tarandu-ma incet-incet,
am trecut pe langa un cimitir. Atunci Maestrul a deschis ochii:
«Ba, vezi? Aici e o fosta eleva de-a mea!»
Mie mi-a inghetat coloana vertebrala. «In cimitir?»
«Pai da! Nu e singura, e cu sotul!» «Cum a ajuns acolo?»
«Tot asa, ba, ca si tine, nu a oprit la Crucea Sfantului
Andrei, aia pe unde trece trenul. Pai, ba, cand vezi o cruce
nu te opresti sa te inchini? Treci ca animalul? Ce-o fi cu
graba asta, ca tot acolo ajungi!»
Omul asta m-a crestinat pe mine, teologul lui peste. Avea
dreptate! Cand vezi Crucea Sfantului Andrei, te uiti in dreapta
si nu crezi nici macar in ala de-ti face semn cu steagul,
ca e tara plina de prosti.

Vei invata sa conduci cand vei sti
sa te feresti de prosti, nu cand vei sti legea!!!”

Dan Puric

three advices and a song

Ask for what you want but do not make claims.” – this advice from Ken Keyes should be used according to ones needs but I think that is important to reflect on it whenever possible.

When one makes a claim like “you should do what I want”, “you should do what is important to me,”  you actually consent to cede the control on your life and on your state of well-being. You will become dependent on the reactions of others and may suffer if they are not doing what you want. And there’s another trap: if you don’t say what you want, because you fear that your request might not be appreciated, your chances to get it are extremely small.

A second advice from Keyes: Accept, for the moment, everything that happens to you.

You can forgive an “unforgiving” thing and you can love what it is not to be loved.  Do not react by feeling hurt. Our suffering is powered only by our mind that feels hurt or unhappy.

And there’s a third one, like a charm: Give more love, even if you don’t get back what you want or expect.

To love is to tear down the walls which surround your heart, and let the feelings to reach your beloved. Love has nothing to do with what happens in your life, but in your heart. To love is not to like what your loved one is doing and is not to say “I love you, if you do this for me”. Real love needs no reasons and no conditions.

If you really want to learn love you must be able to keep your heart open, no matter what happens.

Your happiness potential can only be reached by feeling and manifesting love – for yourself and for the others.

There’s only one person who can really make you happy – the one that reflects into your mirror.

Remember – the piano keys are black and white, but they sound like a million colors in your mind